Deep listening: Finding common ground with opponents
Do you find it hard to speak to people when you feel passionately they are wrong? Whether it’s a row over giving up meat to save the planet or simply whose turn it is to wash up, such conversations can lead to a stalemate. One potential solution is deceptively simple but hard to pull off, especially when you feel sure you are right. The technique is called deep listening.
It is an approach to difficult conversations that ensures both parties feel fully heard. Research suggests it can enhance the speaker’s feeling of wellbeing, as when we are deeply listened to, we can feel valued, accepted and more connected, regardless of whether or not the listener agrees with us.